Potty Training is Tough!
I’m sure anyone who has tried to potty train a toddler probably knows this, however, I never expected it to be this tough. My son is now three years old and is still not potty trained. We have been trying different methods for about a year, although not real persistently. Actually we started before we bought our house, when he was about a year and a half. Then we bought our fixer upper and potty training quickly went out the window.
After we settled in our house we tried again. He got pretty comfortable peeing on the full sized potty if we sat him on it. Although if we tried to put him on the potty for “poopy” he would scream like we were trying to hurt him. Then he even started not wanting to go pee on the potty for me! I was pretty frustrated and thought nothing was going to work.
One Saturday morning, shortly after my son turned 3, my husband somehow (I really don’t know how) convinced him to sit on the potty to poop. He sat on the potty and he went! I couldn’t believe it. We decided to leave his diaper off until we needed to leave the house and he continued to use the potty until he got a diaper on. Most days since then he has gone poop on the potty but only because I keep him naked from the waist down as soon as he wakes up. As much as I remind him to tell me when he has to go potty, he won’t tell me. If I ask him if he has to go he says “no”. If he’s naked, I don’t have to ask he’ll actually head for the toilet on his own and use a stepstool to sit on it.
This is not my preferred method but it works for him and that’s what matters. Many days I can only keep him naked so long because we have errands to run or things to do, then we come home for lunch and nap. Sometimes after his nap I will undress him from the waist down again but many times I forget. I know he’s starting to get it but it’s probably going to be a little while still. Just something I have to accept, as much as I hate buying or changing diapers.
So Much Hype
Those claims of “potty training your child in 3 days” are mostly hype. Basically you have to stay home and keep your child naked for 3 days straight and at the end your kid will be potty trained, yay!! Yeah right. If you read through the method they say you will probably need to keep your kid naked from the waist down, while you are home for the next 3 months!
Another method talks about letting them pick out underwear they really like. Then put your toddler in them first thing in the morning after they go on the potty. Throughout the day you need to constantly ask them if they need to go. You also put them on the potty every 30-45 minutes. I tried this. I let him pick out his favorite underwear and put them on but I ended up with 2 soaked pairs of underwear and wet floors before I gave up on this idea. I’m glad I did because to this day he always tells me “no” when I ask if he needs to go potty. Even when he’s naked he’ll tell me no and then 30 seconds later he’s running to the toilet.
It’s Not Your Fault
If you are struggling with potty training like my husband and I are, be assured most other parents have struggled too. If you have a boy, it’s probably an even harder struggle. I’m sure none of our children will be in diapers by the time they go to school…right? I do wish we had tried keeping him naked sooner. I mistakenly thought we had to do it for 3 days straight while staying at home. That’s not really possible for us, especially on the weekends. I would guess that’s not really possible for most people actually. So just keep trying different things and if all else fails keep your toddler naked when it works for you! I’d love to hear any tips to help with potty training so please leave me your comments.